https://www.jhollandtherapy.com/blog daily 0.75 2026-01-03 https://www.jhollandtherapy.com/blog/why-having-a-boyfriend-is-embarrassing-hit-a-nerve-and-what-it-really-says-about-modern-dating monthly 0.5 2026-01-28 https://www.jhollandtherapy.com/blog/what-really-changes-in-therapy monthly 0.5 2025-12-23 https://www.jhollandtherapy.com/blog/existentialcoachingforteachers monthly 0.5 2025-08-18 https://www.jhollandtherapy.com/blog/between-belonging-and-becoming-reflections-on-coaching-second-generation-black-african-clients-in-france monthly 0.5 2025-07-22 https://www.jhollandtherapy.com/blog/sexual-boredom-the-importance-of-distance-and-separation monthly 0.5 2025-07-23 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5eafef1dd57edd24da513a6e/1616949803795-86NHJMOUEVITJNYGSR7J/role+of+distance+photo.png Blog - Sexual Boredom : The importance of distance and separation https://www.jhollandtherapy.com/blog/meeting-yoni monthly 0.5 2025-07-23 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5eafef1dd57edd24da513a6e/1613730594287-4UEYCKFPW3W353JB91Y9/Peach+Photo+Women+Quote+Instagram+Post+%284%29.png Blog - Yoni : Meeting and Embracing Your Feminine Self https://www.jhollandtherapy.com/blog/menstruation-a-taboo-subject-no-longer monthly 0.5 2025-07-23 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5eafef1dd57edd24da513a6e/1611659482694-N0VFRRHGO0TD95PSYJBX/Peach+Photo+Women+Quote+Instagram+Post.png Blog - Menstruation & Fertility: Taboo Subjects (No Longer) https://www.jhollandtherapy.com/blog/sisterhood-the-importance-of-finding-your-people monthly 0.5 2025-07-23 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5eafef1dd57edd24da513a6e/1611668672700-F0XTZAOF5WM54Q9I4OKW/Peach+Photo+Women+Quote+Instagram+Post-2.png Blog - Sisterhood : The Importance of Finding Your People https://www.jhollandtherapy.com/therapyandcoaching daily 0.75 2026-01-29 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5eafef1dd57edd24da513a6e/aa1cea06-3b54-476d-8560-13ed6728635d/DSC_8514-Enhanced-NR-2.jpg Therapy/Coaching - THERAPY In therapy, I deal with various issues that arise both in individual and couples work. I recognize that each person is unique and therefore requires a tailored approach that suits their individual needs. I incorporate elements from various therapeutic methods to provide a more holistic approach to healing. Topics that I can address with you in individual therapy include: - Body image and body dysmorphia - Identifying and healing emotional wounds - Orgasm and arousal blocks - Pain during sex (vaginismus and dyspareunia) - Erectile dysfunction - Healing sexual trauma - Life transitions: pre-natal, postpartum, menopause transitions https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5eafef1dd57edd24da513a6e/609d1f16-d012-4e2d-aafb-75ef13f317c3/DSC_8437-Enhanced-NR-2.jpg Therapy/Coaching - COUPLES THERAPY Couple conflict and disharmony is my main line of work. I begin with establishing relationship patterns, attachment styles, and various pain points that could be impacting emotional and/or physical intimacy. Various examples of topics that I work through with couples include : - improving communication skills and conflict resolution - deepening the relationship - quality time, intentionality, being present - disillusionment repair and re-establishing trust - cultivating sexual mindfulness and intention - aligning sexual needs and wants https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5eafef1dd57edd24da513a6e/7998bce2-2ea0-4845-af97-41ca3284dc64/DSCF3969.jpg Therapy/Coaching - COACHING Coaching is a profession that provides individuals with support and guidance to improve various aspects of their personal lives, such as relationships, health, work-life balance, and personal fulfilment. It is different from therapy because it focuses on growth rather than healing emotional wounds from the past. Coaching is most effective for immediate concerns that you want to resolve, and can offer valuable support for people who need guidance beyond what friends or family can offer. I start by helping clients notice the details of their experiences, instead of relying on standardised training and toolkits. Through practical exercises and thoughtful questioning, I work with my clients to help them achieve their goals. To describe how coaching works, I often use the metaphor of getting on a wagon : as the coach, I ask questions to help the client see the direction they want to go, and then help them step onto the wagon that is going to get them there. Then I accompany them on their journey, if they decide they want the company. In 2025, I received a Masters of Science in Existential Coaching from the New School of Psychotherapy and Counselling in London. This MSc has equipped me with the skills to create a personal coaching approach that is tailored to clients’ individual needs. Clients leave feeling more prepared, capable, and positive about what comes next. What I offer in coaching includes: - Developing skills to achieve personal growth and calibrate goals - Crafting new habits and setting clear goals to conquer the notion of “stuckness” - Developing skills to improve time-managment - Identifying values, strengths, interests, skills, and motivators so that you can take control - Working with self-esteem blocks, feelings of isolation and disconnection https://www.jhollandtherapy.com/home daily 1.0 2026-01-28 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5eafef1dd57edd24da513a6e/7f485e6c-418a-4469-8173-897da953ea05/DSC_8437-Enhanced-NR.jpg Home - My Philosophy I work as a sexologist, couples therapist and intimacy expert to encourage healthy connections, deepen intimacy, and promote self-awareness. My goal is to work with you to co-create a safe, authentic space in therapy where you can feel supported to untangle the issues preventing you from living your fullest life. Therapy helps to open your metaphorical suitcase, unpack its contents, and process what’s inside—focusing on past wounds and emotional healing. Coaching emphasises personal responsibility, self-discovery, and practical tools. I help you to establish achievable steps based on your personal and professional goals. You can read more about me and my work here. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5eafef1dd57edd24da513a6e/2284dd25-c29f-4332-b1f9-f3a51b28674b/DSCF4165.jpg Home - SEX THERAPY https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5eafef1dd57edd24da513a6e/2ce357e3-a5e1-496d-b3ba-9f58ebae591d/DSCF4160.jpg Home - COUPLES THERAPY https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5eafef1dd57edd24da513a6e/7de6226a-0581-421c-9f11-3fc488e2f523/DSCF4171.jpg Home - COACHING https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5eafef1dd57edd24da513a6e/aa1cea06-3b54-476d-8560-13ed6728635d/DSC_8514-Enhanced-NR-2.jpg Home - FREE 15 MIN CONSULTATION Send me an email to book your consultation slot for sex therapy, couples therapy, or existential coaching. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5eafef1dd57edd24da513a6e/ea10b6ab-7f08-4ca7-a714-4a8ba91616ac/DSCF3961.jpg Home - Workshops + Retreats RECONNECT WITH YOUR vitality. Join my transformative retreats and workshops. https://www.jhollandtherapy.com/aboutme daily 0.75 2025-07-26 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5eafef1dd57edd24da513a6e/51b1688b-0c80-42ec-99c0-f4bb3074fe40/DSC_8446-Enhanced-NR.jpg About - ABOUT ME Photo credit : K G S French Photography https://www.jhollandtherapy.com/events daily 0.75 2026-03-28 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5eafef1dd57edd24da513a6e/8fb4d773-b878-47a7-969d-83567573da9d/April+19+Workshop+Flyer.jpg Workshops/Retreats - Upcoming Workshops When: Sunday, April 19th, 2026 Where: Peloton Café - Event Space - 13 rue du Pont Louis-Philippe, Paris 4ème What: In this women-only workshop, we will discuss erotic energy, desire discrepancy and disruptions. Across generations and across life stages, accessing desire is becoming more and more challenging. What does our body and mind need to connect with desire, and what can we do about it? 100€ / participant https://www.jhollandtherapy.com/new-page daily 0.75 2026-01-28 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5eafef1dd57edd24da513a6e/2163c0b9-61f6-436c-96a9-1d137cefff2a/France24+Image Appearances - France24 - 51% News Report I was interviewed on France24 about the growing “relationship recession” — the global rise in singlehood and changing patterns of intimacy. The discussion explored how digital dating culture, shifting values, and social isolation are reshaping modern relationships, and what this means for emotional connection, desire, and long-term partnership today. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5eafef1dd57edd24da513a6e/690fd7fe-1bcc-4f32-8b9c-fb3788b7db78/DSC_8556-Enhanced-NR.jpg Appearances - Esther Perel - Kadist Residency Think Tank I participated in a reflective conversation with Esther Perel to discuss relationships in the digital era. An intimate group of therapists, coaches, and forward-thinkers discussed themes around love and solitude in the digital era. We spoke about AI companions, how algorithms shape relational depth and coexistence, and our world that is increasingly shaped by digital hyperconnection. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5eafef1dd57edd24da513a6e/0a5c8fad-f3c1-45c5-8a86-df62a4dbae8a/Screenshot+2025-07-21+at+12.45.26.png Appearances - Clashists - Gabrielle Pedriani + Daniela Cadena Diving deep with Jessamy Holland, a psychosexual and relationship therapist based in Paris. She helps Dani & Gabby break down everything from the thrill and heartbreak of international dating, to navigating intimacy across cultural norms, to the quirks of French‑vs‑American expectations around sex, communication, and romance. Can she solve the dilemma of why Gabby despises dating French men? Or why French partners struggle with the word "sorry"? Only time (or, you know, this episode) will tell. Plus - tacos, Percy Pig gummies, and...brie + sugar?? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5eafef1dd57edd24da513a6e/affe02f4-99a9-4046-acec-5e43d8ce613c/krystalkenney-41.jpg Appearances - INSPIRELLE : Unstoppable Balance: Thriving in Mind, Body and Spirit In the spring of 2025 I spoke on the health and wellness panel about the unstoppable balance of a thriving mind, body and spirit. This half-day conference was to connect the international community with professional coaches and experts who can help them thrive in all aspects of their personal and professional lives. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5eafef1dd57edd24da513a6e/81443701-620f-446a-87cc-113633671d7d/Jessamy-Holland-INSPIRELLE-event-1024x768.jpg Appearances - INSPIRELLE : Let’s Talk about Sex - Myths and Reality for Women A live talk I did for Inspirelle, in 2024 where I discussed menopause and sex. The information covered topics ranging from hormonal changes and the impact on sex drive to different solutions to increasing desire and arousal. https://www.jhollandtherapy.com/sexual-education daily 0.75 2025-09-26 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5eafef1dd57edd24da513a6e/4358b5b6-071c-4876-813c-ed2878cfed03/IMG_3895.jpg Sexual Education - Educational group discussions for pre-teens & their parents Using my experience with teaching at international schools, I have developed a workshop for pre-teens that covers topics including sexting, pornography, relationships, appropriate touch, communication, and contraception. There is an option to have the parents included in the group, once the rapport with the teens has been established. I also work with parents on how to approach these sensitive topics with their children. Using a positive sexuality approach, proved most effective in the research by Peggy Orenstein, I teach parents how to normalize discussions of human sexuality with their kids. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5eafef1dd57edd24da513a6e/22ad7875-8287-4bce-a8c5-b080cd8654e2/unsplash-image-zMwxD1cp-Gk.jpg Sexual Education - FAMILY SESSIONS https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5eafef1dd57edd24da513a6e/558ad215-1120-43b3-b7e6-1c93d421d2d1/ingmar-wXO6WPW-91U-unsplash.jpg Sexual Education - SCHOOL SESSIONS https://www.jhollandtherapy.com/couple-intensives daily 0.75 2026-03-03 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5eafef1dd57edd24da513a6e/33b9dfdf-5e50-4fe7-95eb-a5b208543551/JH.png Couple Intensives - Retreats for couples to reboot and reconnect A couples intensive is an immersive, structured 2–3 day experience designed to interrupt long-standing patterns, deepen intimacy, and create lasting change quickly. Why an “intensive”? Weekly therapy builds insight, but an intensive builds momentum. We stay with the difficult moments. We interrupt patterns in real time. We create breakthroughs that often take months to reach in traditional therapy.